Is your goal taking up so much of your attention that you reduce the present moment to a means to an end? Is it taking the joy out of your everyday life?
Getting so focused on the end result you’re aiming for, to the point your present moment has no meaning other than being a stepping stone to the future is one of biggest escape mechanisms endorsed by society and our modern way of thinking.
People that enjoy the present moment are seen as either filthy rich (they don’t have to work for anything anymore, therefore they can enjoy life) or as irresponsible (if you didn’t get there yet, what are you doing wasting your time?) People that keep this mindset believe they’re following a straight path to their goal and when they get there, then and only then, they will feel fulfilled, happy and complete. Until then, they must wait and do all the unpleasant activities, all the sacrifices that are justified by the end they have in mind. The end justifies the means… Does it really?
Life is what’s happening right now and you’re missing out big time if you’re focused on something that may happen in the future. Are you saying that we shouldn’t pursue goals and just enjoy life as if there’s no tomorrow? No, that’s not my point.
Driving from New York to Los Angeles takes at least a few days. If you’re taking this trip, you have two options: 1. Be totally focused on getting there, which will turn your trip into hell. You’ll feel bothered by every little aspect of it, because you don’t want to be on the road, you want to be at your destination. 2. Be focused on the path to get there. You will still get there, but you’ll enjoy your trip so much you’ll wish it would last a couple more days. Those 2 options are available for every goal we have in life, if you choose the first one though, you’ll turn your days into a living hell, if you choose the second you’ll enjoy every minute of it.
Now, this is not a big secret, right?! So why do so many people choose the first option turning their daily lives into a justified sacrifice? It has a lot to do with our society mindset, where the prevalent belief is that the greatest good is “in the future” so it’s ok to sacrifice your present, because the benefit you’re supposed to get later justifies it.
Take a look around… Look at the people that have already sacrificed their whole lives in the name of a greater “good” for the future. See if they got it, see if they’re satisfied with it. I don’t know about you, but I just can’t see it. I see millions of retired people that sacrificed the best years of their lives working to make somebody else rich hoping they would be able to enjoy life at the end of their lives, now they can barely support themselves. I see people that sold their souls to reach a goal and when they got it, it just didn’t seem that fulfilling, so they started to chase after another goal. I see people permanently injured by strokes and other health issues on their way to promised land. I see people committing suicide, suffering with depression and other brain and emotional disorders all because life pulled a trick on them, they didn’t find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. They got frustrated because they can’t understand what went wrong if they did everything right…
It should be clear that the current paradigms our society lives by are not effective for creating inner satisfaction and happiness, but for some reason, most people don’t get it, they keep hoping to find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, although they see that others have already got there and found nothing.
The fact that you’re here reading this article proves that at least some people in our society, including you, are awakening for a new mindset. You’re not willing to pay the price to see that the pot of gold is not there, you want to feel happy and fulfilled now, live a life with meaning and purpose, so you if you haven’t done it already, join the revolution!